The power of decision is the power of making the choice for yourself instead of allowing the choice to happen to you. I find that I am often afraid to make a decision because I fear that I will make the WRONG decision. I am learning that it is not always about making the RIGHT decision, it is about making the decision RIGHT, especially when people are involved.
I have found something that I deal with far worse than ambiguity - it is avoidance - the act of keeping away from or preventing from happening. Am I guilty of this? Yes. I have avoided people/ situations in hopes that they "go away" and then I don't need to be the 'bad guy', but I have learned the error of my ways. It's not easy to make a difficult decision. What happens if I make a mistake? What happens if I chose to do the wrong thing? What happens if I chose to do the right thing? What happens if I regret my decision?
I am learning to look at my core values when making a difficult decision. Which choice is the best for me? Sometimes this decision is not easy but I usually know the answer deep down inside. When I am in doubt I 'call a friend' - well usually send an email - to get their thoughts on the subject. And then depending on the decision that needs to be made I will give myself a timeline - with people, the sooner the better.
Now I just need to figure out what to do when I am the object of avoidance. This type of behaviour has quickly become number 1 on my disrespect scale! I can tolerate a lot of things (although that list is quickly shrinking) but this is not one of them. So perhaps my choice is simple - walk away.
"I can't feel the way I did before. Don't turn your back on me - I won't be ignored." ~ Linkin Park
Peace
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