Dear Abby

I need help from all of my readers out there. I need to learn how to live in the "now". I want to understand how to stop setting hopes and expectations so high that others feel they will never be good enough to meet my standards.

I like to know where I am going. I don't necessarily need to know how I am going to get there, but I need direction. How does one just live for today, enjoy today and not worry about what may or may not be tomorrow? Is it human nature? Is it a female thing? Or am I just a personality type that has trouble coping with no direction?

I am looking to learn. I would like to know how each of you live in the now. Do you live in the now? Are you a planner? Do you set expectations and hopes? How do you manage your expectations? Does anyone out there even understand what the heck I am talking about?

This is not a test. There are no right or wrong answers. I want to understand, to learn and to grow on a personal level. Your assistance regarding this matter would be greatly appreciated.

Peace